Get Back to Neutral

Life happens…to the best of us.

We get caught off guard by unexpected events that leave us reeling.

Initially, we are shocked. This stage could end up coloring all subsequent stages. Do you have a backlog of shocks that are being woken up right now? Have you woken up the dragon?

Or have you learned how to Breathe in Light and breathe out shock yet?

Typical Event–

1. Your loved one unexpectedly takes offense at what you said or did.
2. You are shocked, initially.
3. They are angry and reactive, which makes you angry and reactive.
4. Uncomfortable situation ensues, storming off.

What if we go through this in slow motion? Break it down.

1. You said something. It didn’t land well.
2. Other person is shocked…hurt…angry.
3. They express anger to you.
4. You are shocked…hurt…angry. Stalemate.

Options:

1. walk away, breathe, take care of self
2. stay and say things you will regret later
3. escalate the problem with past examples

In reality, we might need to do all of the above

What eventually matters though, is how we clean it up later.

5 minutes later, an hour later, a day later.

Truthfully, it is human to (over)react to our experiences with emotion

• After over-reacting, cleaning up after yourself is essential.
• To be sure, it’s impossible to take words back.
• However, it is possible to reflect on what transpired to get insight from your soul.

Be advised, you are never too old to give yourself a ‘timeout’

Time alone, spent wisely after a conflict, involves breathing, pausing, wondering, praying, grounding, asking your soul for insights, solutions.

Specifically, give yourself a moment to recover, rebalance

to breathe in Light and breathe out the emotions that arose.

Amazingly, this pause typically brings clarity, suggests your next step.

In a perfect world, we are all about love and Light

However, in the real world, we are bouncing back and forth between Light and darkness.

So, when you find yourself in the dark, call in the Light as soon as you are able.

To demonstrate–

• If you are filled with hatred, anger, and hurt due to a recent interaction with another human, the ball is in your court.
• Take advantage of the opportunity, Breathe in Light and breathe out what you are stuck feeling; until you feel better.
• Until you feel clearer.
• Until you are back to neutral.

My preference–

• Whenever it’s difficult for me to send love and acceptance to someone, I send nothing.
• Meaning, I get back to neutral.
• I actively clear myself (Breathe in Light technique) of hatred, anger, etc., so I’m not sending that to them.
• I actively clear myself (Breathe in Light technique) of hatred, anger, etc., so I’m not sitting in that darkness.

Assuredly, if I ever attain enlightenment

and am ready to send them love and acceptance,

I will be ready.